About EFT
For struggling couples, they often hear a lot of 'you should...' or hear an idea on a podcast. Those ideas are valid, however putting them into action is entirely different - and may not be the right approach for all partners.
In EFT, we work together to understand what gets in the way of connecting on a deeper level. There is no 'villain' other than the negative cycle that couples get caught in. Understanding the dynamics of the cycle, the unique history and learning people bring to their relationships and the protections that get used are core to what makes EFT different.
The therapist is critical in this process, and that makes it important to choose the right fit.
In EFT sessions, couples can expect to explore how their histories inform how they have learned to connect, and what they do when they feel disconnected. Do you shut down? Chase your partner to fix the problem? Sit in anxiety? There are so many ways people learn to protect themselves in distressing moments. Feeling disconnected from such a significant other sends alarm signals to the brain, and then there is a resulting behavior. This is how the cycle gets started. I will help you learn about your unique patterns, encourage you to slow down, get brave and try something new in order get to a more safe, connected space.